Ever watch a child decide between two cookies? It is almost as if they are prolonging the anticipation of eating one in order to enjoy it longer. Deciding between two goods is the best indecision.
Not knowing what to do about something less than delicious is more difficult. Feeling lost and undecided in the face of something that demands a choice (or choices) is challenging.
A friend once told me 'when in doubt, sit on your hands'. He meant be patient, that more would be revealed. And that often works. But other times it seems that time is one of the factors in decisions, that a window of opportunity may slip away if I don't make up my mind right now, or at least real soon.
If it were an issue of just figuring something out, of using logic or research to get the correct answer, that is doable. And when intution speaks, I can listen up. But when I just don't know and feel pushed by time to decide, that is really hard.
You can talk to friends, everyone has an opinion. Sometimes that helps.
"Go as far as you can see. When you get there, you'll be able to see further." I like that one, too.
Taking the time to sit quietly and ask for guidance seems to offer the most reliable direction, but it is difficult to just sit and not think, not do, not be busy. Being quiet while under pressure to take action seems like it requires the strength of Hercules. And that is one of the reasons I go to the beach. Having a quiet spot where there are few distractions and everything there seems to know what it is doing affords opportunity to join the flow. The birds fly, waves roll, crabs dig holes, the wind blows. Birds don't seem troubled about which fish to dive for, they just dive. Everything unfolds in perfect divine order.
And perhaps that is what I need to remember. That everything does unfold the way it needs to, and my decision is just part of the process. Whatever my choice, I will probably either learn or grow in some way. And sometimes, when I relax in the stillness of my mind, an answer or a direction is revealed, no longer obscured by the chatter in my head.
Not knowing what to do about something less than delicious is more difficult. Feeling lost and undecided in the face of something that demands a choice (or choices) is challenging.
A friend once told me 'when in doubt, sit on your hands'. He meant be patient, that more would be revealed. And that often works. But other times it seems that time is one of the factors in decisions, that a window of opportunity may slip away if I don't make up my mind right now, or at least real soon.
If it were an issue of just figuring something out, of using logic or research to get the correct answer, that is doable. And when intution speaks, I can listen up. But when I just don't know and feel pushed by time to decide, that is really hard.
You can talk to friends, everyone has an opinion. Sometimes that helps.
"Go as far as you can see. When you get there, you'll be able to see further." I like that one, too.
Taking the time to sit quietly and ask for guidance seems to offer the most reliable direction, but it is difficult to just sit and not think, not do, not be busy. Being quiet while under pressure to take action seems like it requires the strength of Hercules. And that is one of the reasons I go to the beach. Having a quiet spot where there are few distractions and everything there seems to know what it is doing affords opportunity to join the flow. The birds fly, waves roll, crabs dig holes, the wind blows. Birds don't seem troubled about which fish to dive for, they just dive. Everything unfolds in perfect divine order.
And perhaps that is what I need to remember. That everything does unfold the way it needs to, and my decision is just part of the process. Whatever my choice, I will probably either learn or grow in some way. And sometimes, when I relax in the stillness of my mind, an answer or a direction is revealed, no longer obscured by the chatter in my head.
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