While “The Puking Buzzard Syndrome” name lends humor to this practice, it can be extremely stressful for the enactor as well family and friends. If buried, negative feelings and thoughts can build into a chronic level of anxiety or fester as resentments. While the anger may be periodically directed outward, damage also occurs inside with feelings of guilt or shame about the resultant behavior, stirring up even more charged emotional energy that gets repressed and the cycle continues.
Emotions are energy. Since it is not possible to actually create or destroy energy, the energies of strong emotion need be be transformed into a more manageable experience. Emotion management can be defined as the ability to be aware of and constructively handle both positive and challenging emotions. Ideally we learn this in childhood by mirroring the adults around us. If those adults aren’t able to model good conflict resolution skills and evidence difficulty managing emotions, then that’s our imprint and we need to learn more productive management skills elsewhere. If you Google “emotional management”, you will see a plethora of links for tools and resources. If you struggle with managing anger or depression (or any of your feelings) or you have difficulty maintaining relationships, acquiring new tools can make a huge difference. There are a wide variety of classes, workshops, and therapies that are designed to help us navigate all the emotions that come with being human, giving us strategies to improve both personal and professional relationships as well as our relationship with self.